Why are Filipinos disrespectful?

Question

Why are Filipinos disrespectful?

Answer 1

My wedding was very orderly. Nothing like yours. Sounds more like a family problem then a Filipino problem. I've been married to my my Pinay wife for over 15 years now. I'm around Filipinos often and travel to the Philippines often also. I have found Filipinos nothing but respectful towards me. Have I run into rude ones or ones that are generally bad? Sure I have, but I've run into rude and bad people of every race.

Answer 2

As an American currently living in Dumaguete for two years, I can tell you for a fact that they are very loud! Almost every single neighbor surrounding me, I have had to go and ask them to turn down their music. It never fails, at 6 a.m. someone within ear shot starts playing music. I find it disrespectful and get mad about it. Not to mention tiny, little mopeds with the exhaust pipe cute off. And each family seems to think that having a minimum of three dogs is a good thing- some abuse these dogs by playing favorites and leaving some dogs in a boxed kennel for weeks at a time. Then when they take the dog out for its once a month walk, the dog cannot walk properly because of muscular atrophy. Heres another good one- how about the trike drivers or any guy for that matter, pulling over and whipping out his private parts to pee? Yup, they do stuff like that here. On the flip side, filipinos are very accepting of other people, and anyone with a pulse can get laid.



Why are they disrespectful? I think it’s a cultural norm to do the things they do- they were all raised that way, so they don’t see it as disrespectful.

Answer 3

Why are they rude/disrespectful? Because MANY don't bother with proper etiquette when they are living in another country. I'm not saying they have to assimilate. I'm saying for example, they aren't bothering to learn if it is proper or not to take their shoes off before entering a person's house.



I live in San Diego and from decades of experience (since many Filipinos are in the area because of Marines and Navy), it's like they give off a smug, racist aura around them, acting as if they are better than everyone else NOT Filipino. Given that I have some age over those that invited my family and myself, the youngest adult (around 23) was quite disrespectful trying to interrogate my family's personal life. They asked us our names, but it literally took an hour for them to give me their names at minimum.



To make a long story and a hellish night short, when the rest of the family came, instead of introducing my family to their own, we were pushed outside. My wife and I had our little daughter and their grandparents came and started giving our child kisses out of nowhere. So we quietly got fed up and left.



From my experience, Filipinos are rude and disrespectful by the numbers. The bigger the group, the more looks you get out of the corner of their eyes you get. It's a power thing, a strive for superiority and a short-man's complex wrapped into one package. They smile in your face, then talk bad about you in Tagalog at the same time, because nobody but them is really learning the language. Catch them as the minority of the group and their attitude changes real quick. On top of all that, they have a history of suppressing the Black Filipinos.What you see here in America regularly is just a small SEGMENT of Filipinos and these are the ones that pride themselves on their connection to Spain. You can tell by their anglo-ized/Spanish names.

Answer 4

I was in a bus months ago. It was quiet. Then 3 caucasian ladies entered. It was all noise since then.

Answer 5

Every single person on Earth has a different Personality. Doesn't matter what Ethnicity or Religion, each and every single one of us has a completely different personality.



I'm Filipina, my whole family is. And I just came back from the Philippines last year and I studied there for 2 years. I met tons of Filipinos with different Personalities. And just like any other Ethnicity, if it's Canadians, Americans, Australians, Japanese, English (You get the point) there's a family/group of people that's nice and there's this group of people that's just horrible and can burn in hell or disrespectful.



Most Filipinos I met were respectful. Maybe your Aunt thinks that It's okay to do what she did. Your question caught my eye because you said why are Filipinos Disrespectful, and you're saying that all Filipinos are Disrespectful. So you know what I'm going to answer some of your other questions to make a good point

Answer 6

people in canada are calm, quaint and polite, even popular food and travel host anthony bourdain mentioned that during his layover in toronto. there are many differences in terms of culture from two different countries.

Answer 7

For Filipinos, these do not equate to disrespecft.



Go to the Philippines, talking in a bgus or a jeepney is normal.



The ipad photography is also pretty common in concertts, birthdays, and yes even wedding ceremonies.

Answer 8

lol the second situation was funny and if the priest told me to go back to my seat the first time i would go there in a blink of an eye

Answer 9

some canadianized filpinos might be loud... but tehy would be as loud as other canadian kids



most filipinos i know are kinda corny.... but not disrespectful

Answer 10

It is so true that people assume that what they see in their immediate neighborhood is THE WORLD. In your case, your Filipino family is an exception and you assume that all Filipinos are like your disrespectful, dysfunctional family. Woe on you. But you can be happy in this world if you learn the facts of life. That not everyone is the same.

Answer 11

First of all, just because "some" Filipinos are rude doesn't mean everyone is. You are basing your observations in few incidents. I'm Filipino and I don't act like that, I travel every week and I don't seem to hear people talking loud like what you said, it depends on the person actually I also had some experiences regarding people talking loud in different languages in a bus, jeep & plane, one time there were Koreans talking so loud that everyone just grinned because they talk funny, there was also a case were an American was talking to a Filipino with a very loud voice, also a Chinese talking to a phone with a really loud voice. It depends on a person don't judge too quickly.



Regarding the wedding, Filipinos are very fond of taking pictures for future purposes, but I think the people you mentioned gone too far, I also think it isn't right to be taking pictures of a church like a tourist, we Filipinos are very religious we treat holy places & places of worship with utmost respect. Maybe your relatives are just ignorant(no offense). If something is wrong here it must be your relatives. Filipinos are usually shy to get noticed(based on personal experience).



Don't look down on your own race, our ancestors were poets & revolutionists.

Answer 12

You won't live long enough in Philippines if you only see are the bad things. Yes we Filipinos are very loud, because we have so many cultures. And speaking of which, some of our behaviours are inherited. There are differences of Filipino cultures inside this country, which are seen mostly into Ilocanos, Tagalogs, Pangasinense, Kapampangan, etc, which are also Pinoys who use different dialect, except tagalogs.



You could only criticize us IF you were ABLE to observed us from Luzon to Mindanao.

The more livelier question, WHY DOES FOREIGN PEOPLE CRITICIZE THE BEHAVIOURS OF FILIPINOS INSIDE THEIR YARDS (PHILIPPINES)?

Answer 13

About the talking loudly part, my dad and my uncle are like that but I always reprimand them because it's quite disrespectful :/ but hey, I think what you've experienced is an isolated case :) of all the weddings that I have been, there wasn't a problem like this. Maybe that person was just too hard headed and doesn't want to be told what to do.

I hope you'll have better experience with Filipinos.

Answer 14

Wait wait... Please don't skip to conclusions. When you look at these from a shallow level, you'd think we are disrespectful and rude. But, you didn't look far enough. You just scratched the outside.



First of all, we Filipinos are not rude or disrespectful. Yes, "some" are, but if only "some" are, that doesn't make it ALL the Filipinos as rude and disrespectful. All countries have flaws. Philippines is not the only one. Even those countries where people like migrating to. US, Canada, there in Europe, and other places. Even if you think we are rude and disrespectful, we have our strengths. We are independent, we fought for ourselves back in our history, our heroes fighting to the deaths for the sake of the country.



Second of all, don't be shallow-minded. If you look at it this way, when those group of people in the bus were noisy, it meant that they were happy and carefree. That was how we lived for centuries. We are retaining our culture. Though they didn't mind the others, it meant that they were lucky-go-happy people, and that symbolizes our Filipino youth and culture.



When your aunt went up there, she was showing that she wanted this day to be remembered through something permanent. What do photographers do? They move like, 5 feet near you to capture the moment, don't they? She wanted to cherish the moment and let it live for a long time through that picture. When your mom was laughing, it showed that despite the priest telling her to go back to her seat, in shorter words, scolding her, we don't mind and we are happy. Another example of being happy if you look at it more deeply.



Third of all, different people have different personalities. Just because you wanted a quiet bus ride doesn't mean others agree with you and want a quiet one too. Just because you thought what your aunt did was embarrassing doesn't mean it was embarrassing for her. Not all minds think alike. Get that into your head.



Fourth, and finally, don't jump to conclusions when you didn't even think about it thoroughly..

Answer 15

I think filipinoes are always happy even if they're facing problems. They don't take lives seriously (Well, some) And so what you saw there is her jolliness. People here like to take a lot of photos. like seriously, a lot of my friend's albums in facebook have tons of pictures! they're addicted! they can't get enough of their faces! lol. but I'm not like that! Each person has different characteristics.



Watch your accusations!



(I said THEY'RE always happy, because I'm not like them. but most of us are like that :) and I do take lives seriously. well it depends haha)

Answer 16

Disrespect and rudeness, everyone can be vulnerable on which.